Pushing someone to do better requires wagering some or all of your relationship capital with them. If you're wrong, you could lose your whole stake. If you're right, you could double your bet. But this requires that you built up the relationship capital before deciding to use it.
Satisfaction and happiness comes from moving in the right direction, not being in the right place. No matter where you are, if you try to linger there, you will eventually stop being happy. You have to keep moving in the right direction to keep being happy and satisfied. Likewise, no matter how far you feel you are from a good place, you will feel better as soon as you start heading the right way, even if it feels very far away. Learning to notice that feeling of moving in the right direction … (Continued)
You think you can make good decisions for yourself because you know yourself better than anyone else knows you. But you also have the greatest conflict of interest. It is easy to convince yourself that what is easier is also better. But in the long run it rarely is. Thus, surround yourself with trustworthy people who want what's best for you, not what is easy. And listen when they speak.
We admire things that we can't do but think we could one day. If we can already do it, it's not that impressive. If we don't think we can ever do it, it's just depressing.
